Ready to Get Off the Hot Mess Express?
You’ve done the work and the therapy...
So why do you still feel stuck and numb?
If you are in recovery from
Addiction
Trauma
Codependency
All of the above
But deep down...
Something is still off.
Then it's time for a
new strategy!
Life Coaching that thinks outside the box...
Let me guess...
You are sober and still can not get out of your own way.
You continue to struggle with chaos - without a purpose in sight.
You’ve outgrown traditional therapy...but you’re not sure what’s next.
You want to manage symptoms that are sometimes out of your control.
Start Right Here
→ Shift your mindset
→ Change your behavior
→ Finally get different results
👇 Ready to get out of your own way?
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Simple No-BS Methods
ACCOUNTABILITY
Blame-shifting? Not here!
This is where you take back your power by owning your part.
Identify the swirling patterns fueling your fire and create a plan to break them.
AWARENESS
Stop dancing around tough topics!
We’ll uncover the deep-down
truths you’ve been avoiding—
no sugarcoating, no fluff.
Think of it as taking off the Spanx and letting it all hang out.
ACTION
This is the game-changer.
We don’t just talk about solutions; we implement them.
My strategies are simple and designed to get you into intentional action.
I'm Sarah Shaffer!
Your Real and Raw
Life Strategy Coach
✔️ I’m a Gen X woman, social worker, survivor, and your no-BS coach.
✔️ I’ve lived through trauma, parenting a medically complex child, burnout, addiction, and the lie that women should hold it all together with a smile.
✔️ I created The Butterfly Breakthrough to help women like you get off the Hot Mess Express and build a life that feels more like freedom and less like a mental breakdown.
✔️ My coaching supports and provides education on alternative treatment methods like Medical Marijuana and Ketamine-Assisted Therapy
The Dumpster Fire Diaries:
Get Off the Hot Mess Express
Is it a memoir, a workbook, or
a self-help roadmap?
It’s all three, duct-taped together with
truth, sarcasm, strategy, and soul.
In my debut book I dive into topics that most...
Avoid like the plague.
Raw stories that make you feel seen (not judged)
Tools that actually help you calm the chaos
One-liners that hit harder than your last therapy bill
I wrote this book for EVERY woman who’s ever said:
WTF am I doing with my life?
How did I become ringleader of this circus?
Is it just me, or am I completely losing it?
Spoiler alert:
It’s not just you.
And you’re not losing it.
You’re just fried mentally and physically.
Radical clarity, emotional detox, and
soul-deep accountability
How my coaching is different and why it works:
You won’t just “talk about it.” You’ll move through it.
With guidance, support, and actual tools that make sense in real life.
It’s root-focused
not symptom-bandaging.
We unpack what’s really driving your stuck patterns ...
without judgment, shame, or overanalysis.
It’s raw, real, and
radically honest.
Ditch the emotional Spanx.
No masks. No performance.
Just the real you...
finally seen and heard.
It blends lived experience, and unconventional healing.
Think: somatic practices, recovery wisdom, boundaries work, and nervous system support...
minus the clinical coldness.
Testimonials
Nicole van Kuppeveld, MBA
Founder
Organizations by Design, Inc.
"Sarah embodies resilience, wisdom,
and beauty in its truest form.
Her journey is a testament to the power of
self-awareness, growth, and transformation."
Devin Sarno, Speech Strategist
Founder
Parlay Communications
"In a world where many people feel pressured to maintain a facade, Sarah offers a unique opportunity to set our burdens down and engage in authentic conversations."
Karen Furlong, P.Eng, PMP, MBA, Director
Kismet Consulting
"What really resonated about Sarah was her kindness and desire to empower women to believe in themselves and transcend the faulty programming installed by a broken system."
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